3 things to do after a breakup
- Hannah Brod
- Jun 6, 2025
- 5 min read
Updated: Jun 9, 2025
Feel your feelings.
Feel. Yep, it isn't fun, no one wants to do it, but at some point it is going to come up, so you might as well face it brave. Whatever happened between you both - I am deeply sorry. I know how hard it is to lose someone you love and saw a future with. I also am a believer that everything happens for a reason. I also know that everytime God has removed someone from my life, God has already hand picked someone new to partner with me. Now, this "new" someone might not be someone so new. It might be someone who has been there the whole time. It also might not be a person at all...it might be a fourlegged soulmate. Who knows! Truly, only God does and isn't that the magic of life.
I hope you know that I am not trying to discredit your pain during this time. Trust me, I have felt everything over the past couple months going through a breakup myself. It is challenging, it makes you question everything. I have questioned him, I have questioned myself, and I have questioned our entire relationship...and it was the healthiest relationship I have ever experienced.
Regardless, I am the type to rip off the bandaid and dive deep into healing right after a breakup. I do this because I know no one else is going to do the healing for me and because I am worth it. I am worth a love that moves mountains, creates waves, and sets the whole world on fire, but I am also worth a soft love. A love where I can feel like a little princess, but also a queen at the same time. Ultimately though, that love HAS to come from God first.
God's love for you is unfailing and unconditional. God always chooses you, always loves you, and is always there for you -- but you get to be there for yourself too.
Take care of yourself.
Now, this looks different for everyone, but let me lay down a simple list of things that may help you take care of yourself through a breakup.
Pray Endlessly: Pray for your ex. Pray for their family and friends to support them during this time. Pray over yourself and for your people to support you during this time. Pray for God to wrap you both up in love, comfort, and peace.
Benefits: Giving it to God releases you from doing it all alone. Let go + let God!
Eat Everyday: Simple, yes, but anyone who is anyone understands that sometimes this is the hardest part. Grab a rotissarie chicken and eat it with your bare hands if you need lmao. Just eat something everyday...your body deserves nourishment!
Benefits: Grab and go, no utensils needed, and PROTEIN.
Stay Active: Now, I am not saying go run a marathon. Sometimes we overdue the "stay active" advice because we are ~RuNnInG~ away from feeling. Find a balance, but something simple to devote yourself to is a 10 minute walk outside.
Benefits: Fresh Air, Vitamin D from the sun, and light movement.
Date Yourself: Take yourself on dates before going on any dates with someone new. You get to take the time to learn about yourself again, heal, feel, and embrace being your own best friend again. Plus no one knows how to love you better than yourself - so date yourself!
Benefits: Builds self-trust, creates confidence, and embraces the journey.
Set Boundaries: You get to block them. You get to do no contact for at least 30 days. You get to protect yourself during this time. You get to take care of yourself because no one else is going to do that for you.
Benefits: Protect yourself, move on, and choose yourself.
Lean In: Lean in on God. Lean in on your faith. Lean in on your people. Lean in on yourself. Just lean in, don't you dare lean away. Leaning away only leads to more feelings of darkness...which you know you don't need. Lean into love, lean into laughter, lean into the light.
Benefits: Let the magic unfold when you let God in the picture. Faith over fear.
Reflection Time: When you feel ready, take some time to reflect on your relationship. Even if it was the best relationship you have been in, there are still learnings to take away -- not only from him, but also from yourself. What did you like about him, what did you like about yourself when you were around him, what did you learn from this relationship that you didn't know before.
Benefits: Figure out what you learned and what you want in the future.
Find Gratitude: Yes, you get to find gratitude in your relationship that ended. Endings are just new beginnings if you think about it. Similar to reflection time, find gratitude in the ending when you feel ready.
Benefits: Close the chapter with gratitude so when you "look back" you don't hold resentment in your heart. You are doing this for you.
Embrace the healing journey.
Healing isn't linear. Some days you are going to cry and cry and cry some more. Some days you are going to check out a new rooftop club and dance for hours straight with your besties. Some days you are going to talk to your therapist, see your breathwork coach, take a pilates class, go to two church services, and still barely feel like you helped yourself at all. Some days you may spend thousands on shopping, but you know what? So what. Do what you gotta do to feel like YOU again, but also know that clothes ultimately won't make you feel better. Only God can fill that void you are trying to heal. Embrace the healing journey. Remind yourself that you don't owe anyone anything, but you do owe yourself. Love God with all that you have and keep God close every step of the way. God goes before you and God is always behind you. You are never alone. Embrace all the magic as this new chapter unfolds for you, because it is ALL happening for YOU!
God doesn't miss. God doesn't make mistakes. God creates beauty in the chaos, magic in the unknown, and a way when you thought there was no path forward.
"I will go before you and will level the mountains; I will break down gates of bronze and cut through bars of iron. I will give you hidden treasures, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the Lord, the God of Israel, who summons you by name." -Isaiah 45:2-3
