You are enough and always have been

So, you don't feel good enough? Trust, I have been there. Sometimes I still find myself there. It is what it is MY GUY/MY GIRRRRRL. So what do we do? When we are face to face with ourselves, but can't stand who is looking us back in the mirror? I will tell you what I tell myself...

Step 1: Say "You are enough"

That was easy, right? "You are enough." Sounds good. Feels good. But still doesn't feel "enough"? Ironic isn't it? This idea of "enough" is like filling an invisible glass. You keep on pouring water into it but for whatever reason the cup just isn't holding onto ANYTHING. The water is just falling and falling and falling. Over and over and over again. A toxic cycle. A never ending plead. A dead end road you keep on ending up on...

It is okay. It is okay you feel this way. It is okay you don't feel enough. In a world that praises so many different things, I understand. How could you be "enough" when society tells you again and again and again you aren't? How can you be "enough" when the people you thought you could depend aren't there? How is "enough" even reached? What are the steps to getting to being "enough", feeling "enough", and embodying "enough"?

Step 2: Listen to "You Say" by Lauren Daigle

Isn't it funny how God works? As I am writing about this specific topic, "You Say" by Lauren Daigle comes on. Well, that is the perfect starting point for anyone who doesn't feel "enough". You know why? Because God always says you are MORE THAN enough. God always sees the absolute best in you. If you are still on this Earth, you still have purpose. You still have a reason to keep moving, shaking, smiling, laughing, dancing, and loving. I know this world can be cold, but don't let it turn you against YOU. Don't let it tell you that you aren't good enough. Because you are good enough. You always have been good enough. You always WILL be good enough. Whatever you don't feel is "good enough" give it to God. Let God show you why you are worth it. Let God show you why you are good enough. Let God speak life into you and tell you just how amazingly beautiful/handsome you are.

Step 3: Listen to "Rise Up" by Andra Day

I kid you not, this song just popped up after "You Say". Interesting right? Some would call it a coincidence...but God and I have something different. We got a good thing going and it is SO cool when we get to collab together. So, check out "Rise Up" and do exactly what it says. Rise up, King/Queen. You heard me. Stop playing. Cancel the noise. Get back on the horse. Remember who TF you are. Rise to the occasion. Show up and show out. No, this isn't for the weak. It takes a lot of COURAGE to rise up. It takes a lot of COURAGE to brush yourself off and take ACCOUNTABILITY for your life. But you only have one life. You only get one shot. The only person you have your entire life is YOU. Don't let the world turn you against you. Have your own back. Take care of yourself. Speak life into yourself. Feel your feelings. Then, when the time is right, pick yourself back up. Rise up. Grind. Remember why you started. Remember it has nothing to do with them. It has everything to do with you. Where YOU see your life. Where YOU see your future. Where YOU want to be with YOU. Do you still want to say you aren't good enough? Do you? ... I didn't think so. So, rise up.

Step 4: Don't lose you.

It is so easy to get caught up in not feeling good enough. It is so easy to get caught up in excuses, negative thoughts, anxiety, worries, stress, depression, "insert whatever your thing is here"...but don't lose you. You can lose them. You can. It sucks. It really sucks losing people, but it is better than losing YOU. You cannot afford to lose you. You can afford to lose them though. If you don't feel good enough with all of these people around you then what are these people actually doing? If it is truly a numbers game, great. You won! But do you feel like a winner? Like do you feel celebrated? Do you feel loved? Do you feel seen? Do you feel heard? If the answer is no, then why? Maybe it is time to spend less time with them and more time with you. Maybe it is time to start doing what is best for you. Maybe it is time to choose you, but you choose. At the end of the day it truly is your choice. You have the opportunity to take care of yourself. You have the opportunity to ensure you feel enough...because of YOU. Accountability is everything. If you can see the things you are doing right so well, maybe it is time to look at the parts that aren't going so well. We can all fake it until we make it, but trust me it isn't sustainable. I have crashed so many times it is RIDICULOUS.

Step 5: Want MORE for YOU

I want more for you. I want the WORLD for you. I don't want you to think that you aren't "enough", but if this is where you are....let's sit with it. Let's accept it. Let's feel those feelings of not being enough. Maybe you need to scream. Maybe you need to throw plates. Maybe you need to punch some.... pillows. lol. Let's not punch people....THANK YHHHEW. But lets feel those feelings. If you need to cry, cry. If you need a hug, come here. I love hugs lmao. I want more for you. I hope you want the same for YOU. I know how it feels to not feel good enough, but you wouldn't have this opportunity, this relationship, this *insert thing you are thinking about* if you didn't deserve it. BE GRATEFUL FOR THE THING BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT. YOU DESERVE LOVE. YOU DESERVE TO FEEL ENOUGH. YOU DESERVE LAUGHTER. YOU DESERVE MORE... but will you go after more? That's a choice I hope you get to tell someone about one day, because let's face it. LIFE IS TOO SHORT. GO GET MORE BB !!!!

You are more than enough. You always have been. Now, you get to believe it for yourself and treat yourself like you have ALWAYS been more than enough QUEEN!

xoxo,

Life Coach Han

"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value."

Proverbs 31: 10-11